Category: Dating and Relationships
So for those of you who are single and looking, do you notice that you might atract the same kinds of people? Now I'm talking about people who seek you out and not necessarily the kinds of people you'd willingly seek out. For example, when I was single and looking, the women who would fall for me seemed to have pretty poor self-esteem and saw themselves unworthy of love or much of anything good. Also, when I would just be friendly to them and treat them like human beings, they took such treatment as being romantic interest when it was not. This happened more than once which I thought was interesting.
Luckily, the person I'm with now is somebody I actually would want in my life who has a good head on her shoulders and loves me for much more than just being nice to her. Anyhow, what do you think?
I seem to attract nutters! Smile.
...no seriously eh unconventional types those who have an alternative view of life and are happy to go along with the strangeness that has become an intrinsic part of mine.I like deep people a shallow superficial attitude is as bad, if not worse, than stupidity in my book.
Hmm they are normally good looking, though Goths are meant to be beautiful hmm and they are also crazy but in a good way.
Well, if you think about it logically I mean. The people you are most likely to attract right away would be people who are searching and those are often those with low self-esteem. They'd be the first ones to jump on the chance to be loved and treated well and appreciated. So I think it's common to experience what you described.
I think people who are happy with where and who they are are more reluctant to jump into a relationship. It's just a theory of course.
cheers
-B
The men I attract are either blind, hard of hearing, have a illness or are just plain old wierd. BFs #1 and 3 were both blind. Only BF#3 had diabetis added to the mix. BF #2 was hard of hearing and used a hearing aid. That boy was completely wierd never intuned with the world. He hardly had any friends and was so hard to have a handle on. So I'm trying to attract guys who aren't disabled or have a illness included. It's not that I don't have a problem with the blind folk it's just I wanna try for something else. Not too many men who have no disabilities or disabilities in their family find women with a disability attractive.
I attract who I want to attract! Lol
If we are talking about dating I would have to say that being a guy living in a society where it’s more customary for guys to ask girls out it’s always been more a question of who attracts me more than who do I attract. I have however been asked out by a girl before. I’m not sure I can say I attract a certain type but I find myself hanging out with people that are more intellectual, athletic and like to have fun; probably because I’m a lot like that myself and not because that’s who I attract. I’ve known people from all walks of life and try to understand people’s situations so I guess I attract whoever wants to talk to me?
Uh, intellectual smooth people who are confident but free? The smarties?
I believe the last post in this was from 2004.
Just putting it out there.
Just a piece of advice for those that plan to post here. Be the person you want to be with. This means that you got to start with yourself first before you look for others to fill in those things that you lack or those traits you want the other person to have. Love yourself first. I'm sure what I'm trying to say is straight forward. The way you present yourself would be the basis of how people will see you. So for instance, if you want someone smart, confident, down to earth, and honest, you got to start with yourself.